Date a Girl That is Passionate

Date a girl who is passionate.

You owe it to yourself.

Nowadays passion is treated like a disease- if you care too much about something you are weird. If someone has an opinion, they can say it, but they shouldn’t fight for it. Fanatics, feminists, advocates, liberals, those people who raise their hand in class too often- all things that should be avoided at all costs. Because people would rather spend their days around others that look pretty but kept their thoughts to themselves. There is mystery, intrigue, and the small ray of hope that someday you might be the only thing that person fights for.

But dating a girl that is passionate……

A girl that is passionate believes in things. She knows who she is without having to be told by some publication or outside source. While other people base their opinion on flimsy words of people they look up to, or sources of popular media- she is the girl with forty articles of both sides of the argument outlined and highlighted. She does her research, makes pro and con lists, and then ultimately decides with her heart and facts what she believes in.  

A girl that is passionate stands up for those beliefs. Yes, even when it is awkward and other people wonder “why she cares so much”. But she put others things above other peoples approval. She knows that silence is dangerous. You can see her hiding Jewish families in her basement, leading slaves on underground passage ways, and declaring to gunman that she is Christian. Because she knows that it’s beliefs and convictions that change the world.

A girl that is passionate wants to see passion in others. So she will ask questions about math equations that make no sense to her, all for the joy of watching your eyes light up, and your hands fly with excitement at being able to share a part of your life no one else asks about.  

A girl that is passionate puts the people closest to her first. So when odds come against you, and your friends suddenly spend more time talking about you than being with you- she will be there. She will play with your hair while you complain about it for the fortieth time. She will agree with you instead of commenting how many times she has heard your worn and tired speech. She will create an army that fights specifically for you, and in that army she is the leader, the doctor, and the cheerleader.

A girl that is passionate knows how to find her own happiness. She spends her days seeking out the things that make her feel alive. She depends on herself to find that pottery class, yoga session, or kick boxing match that cultivates her own contentment. She doesn’t latch on to other people and expect them to give her things she can give herself.

A girl that is passionate is willing to try new things. She is open to diving off cliffs when she is afraid of heights, to tasting unmentionable parts of animals. She will laugh with excitement when wielding a paint ball gun at a professional tournament. She knows that life holds adventures outside of her comfort zone, and is willing to seek out new things.

A girl that is passionate will make you burn. She feels emotions from her heart to her finger tips, and will never cease to make you do the same. She won’t always leave you wondering, but she will always leave you feeling.

A girl that is passionate knows that communication is important and will make an effort to talk to you before walking away. She will tell you what she is feeling before expecting you to read her thoughts.

A girl who is passionate knows passion comes from many activities and beliefs. More than that, she will be willing to share in your passions, and listen to your beliefs even if they sound boring or different from her own. She will spend hours watching scary movies, even if they keep her up the entire next day. She will try volleyball even if her arms get sore. And she will go to every poetry contest you enter even if your poems never rhyme.

A girl that is passionate can never be boring. She speaks in colors, and paints in sounds.

A girl who is passionate isn’t afraid to put that passion to good use in other ways….

A girl who is passionate isn’t afraid to work hard. Because she knows that passion requires effort, it requires risk, and it sometimes requires sacrifice. She also knows that the end result is the more important than all the upsets along the way.

A girl who is passionate knows that people disagree. She also knows disagreeing isn’t an end all be all in a relationship, but instead a chance to try to see from another persons perspective.  A chance to defend your own. And sometimes a chance to come together and agree to disagree.

A girl who is passionate isn’t afraid to be different. She isn’t afraid to make changes, speak her mind, and most importantly she isn’t afraid to put herself out there. She is scary because she finds ways to move unmovable mountains, she takes time to make the mute congregation sing, and she finds ways to make the apathetic people feel. There is nothing she can’t do.

So yes. Go ahead and date a girl with no opinion. Who smiles and keeps her comments to herself. Watch mystery turn into taciturn arguments, or one sided conversations of your accomplishments fade into stale conversation over dinner. Watch life fade into a black and white movie- with beautiful clean cut lines, and perfectly smoothed edges. I would rather spend my days in the bright light of wrestling matches over tastes in movies, smudged makeup in last minute sprinkler frenzies, and days spent living out convictions and beliefs.

Date a girl who is passionate because soon her passion will rub off on you as well. You will enter a new way of living, of breathing, of being. And you owe it to yourself.